“Beauty is unbearable, drives us to despair, offering us for a minute the glimpse of an eternity that we should like to stretch out over the whole of time” – Albert Camus
If you haven’t heard yet Cameron Diaz speaks about aging gracefully to Oprah in an upcoming special on OWN. On the ENews website they had part of the interview, Oprah says “Our culture is obsessed with not growing into who we are really meant to be” Cameron replies “This is true and women don’t allow other women to age gracefully and we don’t give ourselves permission to age gracefully” Cameron also says “It’s a personal…failure. Like our fault that at 40 years old that I still don’t look like I’m 25”.
Why do we judge women for aging when looking young doesn’t make us better, smarter or wealthier people? Does it come down to vanity or do we classify looking young as an achievement? I have spent a small fortune at the age of 27 on anti aging creams because I’ve been told prevention is the key. I believe they are preventing me from getting crow’s feet, frown lines and my skin losing elasticity which are all signs of aging.
There are many factors of what causes aging from what I’ve been told; genetics, diet, lifestyle and how long you spend in the sun amongst other things. Some of these factors are harder to control than others. Applying sunscreen on your face everyday and eating vegetables is one thing but having a lot of stress in your life from work or home life another.
A lady I met on Saturday started a conversation with me and she said to me “Guess how old I am?” I hate this question because the chances of offending the person are too high so I tried to avoid the question. She told me anyway that she was 33 and that people tell her she looks 50. Even though I had only just met this lady my heart broke for her when she told me this because nobody wants to hear they look older than what they are. Was she still an attractive, nice, interesting person absolutely!
Why does aging gracefully have to be a bad thing is it because of society, vanity or does it make sense that we should never look a day over 25?